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2009 March 24
by Gordon Reid

I’ve just seen the famous motto of the movie “Love Story” on a church notice board, saying “Love means never having to say you’re sorry”.

No doubt the purpose of the church is good – namely that everyone, no matter how sinful, is welcome there, because of God’s love for all. But surely what the slogan says is just bad psychology and bad theology.

One of the hardest things we have to do in our lives is to pronounce the words “I’m sorry” ,in order to mend a relationship that is broken. And yet sometimes it is the only way to restore that relationship. And the funny thing is, that sometimes it is the injured party, the one who has been wronged, who makes the effort and says “I’m sorry”  - because he or she is the stronger person.

And I don’t think it is silly or blasphemous to see in the Cross of Christ God’s way of saying “I’m sorry”. Not that there was anything for God to apologize for. It was he who had been wronged, he who had been hurt. It was man who had broken the relationship. But because God was the stronger, it was he who humbled himself and (with all the pain that that involves) said “I’m sorry”.

Love doesn’t mean never having to say you’re sorry. Love gives us the courage and the ability to reach out eagerly wherever there are broken hearts and to say in the power of God’s love: “I’m sorry”

4 Responses leave one →
  1. Will Bricker permalink
    March 24, 2009

    Congrats on your new blog. I hate the word “blog” ! It sounds like something distasteful! i hope that it isn’t. Good Luck, Will

    • saintclementsblog permalink*
      March 24, 2009

      Thanks, Will. I agree it is a lumpish word. Shades of blog roll and blog Irish! I’ll try to keep mine tasteful and tasty.

  2. March 25, 2009

    I never saw the film of Love Story but one of my favourites, What’s Up, Doc?, was made right afterwards and starring Ryan O’Neal from the other one. Without giving anything away, the last two lines:

    Barbra Streisand: ‘Love is never having to say you’re sorry.’
    Ryan O’Neal: ‘That’s the dumbest thing I ever heard!’

  3. saintclementsblog permalink*
    March 25, 2009

    That’s great – common sense sending up sentimentality!

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